Monday, April 19, 2010
thought of the day
Why do I give up on myself so easily? Why do I always believe that I can’t do something? I think that is one of my biggest issues…I believe that I wont be able to get where I need to be and I have in my head that im going to fail before I do, so I think that part of my brain gives up thinking that I cant do it so why bother? That makes me mad at myself. Why do I have no faith in myself? Am I afraid to succeed? I don’t know what it is??? Its weird…its like I want something so badly but yet, don’t want to do what it takes to get there! Or im just afraid to get myself to the place I need to get just because its hard and im afraid to fail?
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i think shes talking to us:)
email me! kit we have to do this! and we are both struggling so lets stay together!
For me I have to see myself at the final moment..I have to picture myself achieving or getting what I want after I do the work for it...then I can stay focused...works for me - sometimes ;-)
Hang in there I get this way from time to time. Your amazing!
Your parents did it to you. No, really. At some point when you were little, your parents said "No! Don't! You might hurt yourself." And you were never able to see the glory of what happens when you try, and you succeed, and ... whoa ... it didn't hurt. Which is why one of the best quotes ever says something to the effect of our greatest fear being that we are powerful beyond measure, that we will succeed.
Keep going. You are powerful.
You tell yourself you can't because something inside of you believes you're not worthy or not deserving.
Perhaps in the past you had moments when you strived for something then failed, making you reassess where you think your limits are.
Maybe this happened in a team or multiple person environment, where you feel you didn't do as well as you hoped and you found mroe solace in single person activities.
Maybe it's this that makes you good at whatever you do workwise, assuming your job is not a shared job and you have a primary function and you're the only one who does that.
So in such work based situations, you have two things that may partly control work performance.
1. I must not fail, because it's up to me to do this the best I can.
2. Nobody can be better than me, as I'm the only one.
In a competitive environment, you have the opposite.
1. I could fail.
2. There could be people better than me, because I'm not the only one.
Also failure at what you do isn't going to affect your life, like losing your job would, so there's no potential massive comeback for even coming last, so there's no added incentive in that respect to give 100%, when you know giving even 10%, won't have any significant consequence anyway.
Plus you have a sport where the goalposts move all the time. Let's face it, people who run 100M sprints know it's like that all the time. You'd never run 100M in Crystal Palace, then in Berlin next week you do 105M, then in Barcelona the week after 95M, as there's consistency always.
Your sport changes the goal posts for hardness, routine length and possibly what poses are required, so how do you prepare and practice each time for something, when you aren't always sure what's what, because what methods get a great physical end result one time, may do the same next time, but next time those that grade it, are working to slightly different criteria. ou create something that looks like a winning appearance each time, but it isn't.
Some people might as well just turn up ripped to the bone, with a bowl head haircut every time and just take pot luck :-p :-p.
Joking and sarcasm aside mind you, you therefore may have to find some middle ground feelings.
Don't see it as a competitve scene, see it as a work type scene. I mustn't fail because the price of failure is wasted monetary expense and emotional negativity associated with poor performance.
Attach more negativity to a lowly finish on stage, then it seems like there are consequences for not doing well, which might help you to focus on the successes.
With competng, there's oftne success, but the opposite isn't necessarily failure, it's "oh well never mind", or "oh well maybe next time".
If you can start to view what you're doing, not just as a way to succeed, but to place more emphasis on the financial and emotional cost of a low placing, then you'll possibly see what you're doing in a more proactive way, not a pessimistic way.
I think personally sometimes you are a bit too hard on yourself and perhaps you need to be more forgiving or more flexible with yourself, becasue you are such a wonderful person Angela and inside of you beats a great Heart and it comes with a quite beautiful personality and when you start to see more of what you are as a person, it may help you ot realise what you may be capable of.
Whatever happens and whatever comes from it GOOD LUCK and best wishes, becasue you deserve to be happy, healthy and very proud of the things you have done to be who you are now.
:-) :-).
Matt
Think about what your definition of "failure" is ... and then what your definition of "success" is. Do you have a definition for "success" or is it some ambiguous, abstract concept defined by others? Just standing on stage is a success! Think of how few people could do what you're doing, and then remind yourself that it's not just that moment on stage ... it's the journey leading up to it and the things you learned about yourself along the way. You may discover you're much stronger than you think you are.
Keep up the hard work and picture yourself standing on stage, exuding confidence, and knowing you DESERVE to be there.
What are you afraid would happen if you didn't believe that about yourself?
~C.
We all get caught in this circle from time to time. This is where I think sometimes we need action before thought. Let go of the why's and just focus on doing. It's not easy though Angela if it was the world would be where you are... just think of how far you've come :) Hugs girl :) Miss you!
I thought of you today when I heard a song on the radio. It's by Brit Nicole, called "walk on the water" I think. You should listen to it
But also, I tell myself what do I have to lose? Just don't compare yourself to others. When I do that, I get scared and wishy washy and doubtful, because I know I'm not at that elite level and never will be, but I also want to know that I did the best that "I" can do. And my best isn't perfect, but I just pick up and keep going.
And I like Tina's advice, dont' think, just DO! It gets too overwhelming when you think too much, lol!
I think it's just super unrealistic to expect to be able to lose a certain amount of weight by a certain date. I think most people, especially more new competitors, should take a whole year to prep for the next show that way their diets aren't having to be as strict.
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